Steps to Increase Your Self Discipline to Get What You Really Want

What is the single most important factor underlying your success in anything you try your hand at? Some might guess skill. Some might guess people skills. And some might guess charisma. But none of those are the actual answer.

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The answer is: it’s your energy. But not just any type of energy. Scientists call it “activation energy.” This is the minimum amount of energy required to activate change at a cellular level and cause a total transformation.

So that’s the phrase I’m going to use today because what we’re talking about is transformation. Activation energy is what occurs when you increase self-discipline and combine it with motivation. And best of all, I can show you how to cultivate it.

When it comes to goal setting and how to get what you really want, there are six steps you can take to get this energy flowing in your life and build self-discipline. Curious to know what they are? Let’s dive right in…

What is Self Discipline?

Self-discipline refers to the ability to control one's behavior, emotions, and actions in pursuit of long-term goals or values. It involves making conscious choices to prioritize tasks, stay focused, and maintain a consistent effort, even in the face of distractions, temptations, or challenges. Self-discipline often requires delaying gratification, managing impulses, and adhering to self-imposed standards or commitments. It plays a crucial role in personal and professional success by fostering resilience, productivity, and perseverance in the pursuit of desired outcomes.

Steps to Increase Self-Discipline

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I guess I could’ve said that you need to know what you want, but so many people dream too small to ever motivate themselves. Your goals need to be big enough to boost motivation and excite you!

To build self-discipline, you also need to be completely honest about why you want something. Do you want to lose weight so you’ll be healthy, or do you just want to look good shirtless at the beach? Do you want to close more deals to increase your savings, or do you want to buy a Tesla?

Now, obviously, I’m not saying to shoot for shallow goals or spend your money unwisely, but you need to find that thing that makes you smile when you think of it.

Change Your Identity to Change Your Situation

So many people think they need to DO something in order to HAVE something, and after that, they’ll BE that kind of person.

I want you to flip it. Start with your identity. Build your self-discipline and BE the person you want to be so that DOING the work will come naturally. If you want to quit smoking and someone offers you a cigarette, you could respond one of two ways:

• No thanks. I’m trying to quit.
• No thanks. I don’t smoke.

The first one means you’re sacrificing something you normally do. The latter expresses that you already are the person who doesn’t want cigarettes. Choose the latter.

Be > Do > Have

Get Comfortable with Discomfort

The way to do this is by focusing on what you want, not how you feel – because no one ever feels like doing the hard things they need to do.

Life can be uncomfortable, so when you run from discomfort, you’re not really in control of your life at all. Build self-discipline to take that control back and find ways to intentionally seek discomfort.

When you wake up in the morning, don’t hit the snooze button. Get up, right away, no matter how tired you feel, and start your day. You know the physical force you feel when you do that? That’s the force required to change your life.

Take a cold shower, stop using the elevator, only eat raw vegetables for lunch, or just do SOMETHING to exercise your willpower. Because once you’re in control of your own body and mind, control of every other factor in your life will come easy.

Break Difficult Habits Down into Their Smallest Parts

Habits are one of the hardest things we can change because they require us to do them WITHOUT FAIL.

Have you ever told yourself that you were going to:

• Send out five CMAs a day
• Go to the gym for an hour every day
• Meditate for 20 minutes before a listing appointment
• Dedicate every evening entirely to spending time with your family

Unfortunately, things come up. Time gets away from us. We get too tired to follow through. You say you’re just going to have to skip today and the next thing you know a month has gone by.

Breaking these habits down into smaller, more manageable bits will encourage you to at least get started, and once you’re started, it’s a lot easier to build self-discipline and keep going. Try something like this:

• Do one CMA a day
• Go to the gym for five minutes (you’ll probably end up staying for longer)
• Meditate for two minutes before an appointment
• Turn your phone off during dinner

Once you do one of these tiny things, you’ve accomplished the habit for the day. Everything else is extra.

Learn to Say “No”

Steve Jobs said that the most important part of focusing your attention is saying “no” to people. When you allow your attention to be pulled in all different directions, you’re at the mercy of whatever situation comes up.

A mentor of mine used to have people come into his office and ask if he had five minutes to talk to them about something. He’d look up, smile, and say, “Of course I can talk for five minutes… Come back at 3:30.” That was the time he had set aside for those kinds of conversations.

The 5-Second Rule

Could counting down from five really be a life-changing habit? Past BluePrint speaker, Mel Robbins says it absolutely is. She even wrote a phenomenal confidence and self-transformation book on it!

By giving yourself a countdown, you separate yourself from the situation and commit automatically, like jumping into a pool.

The next time a good idea pops into your head, count down silently from five, and after you hear the word “one” in your head, just go do the thing. If you wait – if five seconds pass from the time you thought the idea and you haven’t taken action – the idea is dead.

A Dare from Me to You

I know some of this stuff can sound… well… uncomfortable. That’s the entire point. But when you have an ambition worth striving for and increase your self-discipline to achieve it, you’d be doing everyone in your life a disservice if you didn’t.

So, I dare you to take the tools I’ve just given you and get started today. Once you tap into your activation energy, everything else takes off at rocket speed.

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